what to do in this relationship

[vish]

Hi ,

i have a question for you.first let me start with myself, i am a attractive guy in by mid 20s.i have studied in a all boys school although girls find me attractive, i am not very good with girls, i hesitate taking to them first and when i do i make stupid comments like using the F word etc.

now i have this friend of mine who i know from my kindergarten days we used to live in the same city till our high school then she moved to another
city.we didnt see each other for some years then one ay she dropped by to meet me, although for a few hours but for some reason i was not good to her.Also she been sending me bday cards on my every bday as long as i can remember although i didn’t did the same even though our bdays are just one day apart.
after that we began to be in continuous touch during our graduation.we used to call each other every sunday with text msgs. almost everyday for some reason ican easily talk to her.
we exchanged our pics over email as it had been almost 3-4yrs that we had seen each other and she found be very attractive(as she mentioned in her mail) i also returned the compliment
then after 5-6 months the frequency of our talking and txts decreased, i did that on purpose as i was quite busy but she called atleat twice every month.also whenever we talked she used to ask me about my personal life a lot and when I asked the same she used to cleverly change the topic.i discussed this with my friends they advised me that she definitely has a boyfriend and wants me as “insurance policy” in case something goes wrong with her other relationship I would be there as backup as she is living away from her parents and also visits them not very often although they are do not live very far away from her..then I  reduced the communication with her further but she kept calling atleast once every month.
The problem is I cant get her out of my mind but also cant stand her having other boyfriends.
In our latest conversation she has asked me to give her a bday gift, infact she isisted on that a lot but I didt say yes or no and was very keen to meet me.
What do you make out of my present situation?should I continue with this long distance relationship??what should I do???
Plz help

[gregg]

Tell her to fess up. She should tell you exactly what her situation is and what she is looking for with you. If she can't, cut the relationship. If she wants any kind of relationship there has to be honesty.