Flogging a dead horse, so to speak?

[timkent]

Well, I have been in a relationship with a woman now for just over six months. She has a seven yr old daughter who loves me dearly. My partner and I have spoken about living together a few times and she had actually decided she was going to rent out her house and move in with me, then she said that she was only telling me that to "Keep me happy."  - her daughter would be very happy if we all lived together - her daughter told me and her mum the same. We have just returned from a two week trip to The Maldives, which I paid for!

The crunch.....

For a while I have been feeling that, although she tells me that she is "in love" with me, she does not feel as strongly as she proclaims to feel. So, last night, I asked the hyperthetical question, "If I asked you to marry me, what would you say?" Her response, "Well, I would have to think about that!"

I am devasted! However, I think it confirms what I have felt, that she is not really THAT in love with me.....

Please, give me your honest views on this and how you woudl feel if you received the same answer to the same question.

Tim (UK)

[gregg]

It does sound like you are correct. Her words don't match up. If you want to stay in the relationship, that is up to you. But, you might want to sit down with her and make sure where things stand for sure.

Good luck!

[solodolo]

I thnk your right bro! Go with your gut on this one...you deserve to be LOVED!!!Fully loved!!!

[Heidi]

I think shes just worried about taking that extra step. She may love you as much as she claims but what you have to realize is women WORRY they worry and they worry even more when there's a child involved.
you have only being seing each other for a little more then 6 months. I think you should give her a bit more time, she didnt give you a flat out no she said shed have to think about it. In my opinion shes being cautious and you shouldnt take it to much to heart just let her have her time to feel comfortable with the idea of taking that next HUGE step.
Good Luck

Heidi