Confused! Dont know what to think about his actions, or my feelings? Any advice?

[nicki1515]

I had this teacher... He taught me in a subject that wasn't my strongest, so I'd
always coming for extra help after school, and naturally we got to know each
other, but as the year came to an end, I started to realize that he was treating
me different, I started to realize that sometimes he would flirt with me, but he
really never did anything that made me feel weird or uncomfortable but after
awhile, he started doing things, like making fun of little things I would do in
class, or he would say, 'I love you, I just want you to know that.', or you will
always have a special place in my heart. and when he saw me before
graduation, he told me I looked beautiful, and said that this year has been a
year he won't forget, because he feels that he has become a better person,
teacher, everything because I opened his eyes to giving people an opportunity
to succeed.The year was full of moments like that.
Now, I am starting to question how I feel about him, It's like he slowly
seduced me all year? I just don't know if these 'feelings' between us are real?

I graduated so I am no longer a student at school and I just don't know why
all of a sudden, I find myself feeling this way. Its like as long as I was a
student at the same school that he was my teacher I would never have even
looked at him like that. He never bluntly asked me out or anything, but he did
say at the end of the year that he did like me, and he hoped that any guy who
dates me realizes how lucky they are.

He would make these remarks like, I saw him in the hallway and he came out
of one of the classroom and told these kids, get to class, because there is a
beautiful girl in the courtyard, and brushed my shoulder, as he passed by. He
would also tell other kids(as a joke), that they should not talk to me, even
make eye contact with me. I am a rather outgoing and kinda loud and crazzy
person( in a good way.lol) so I can be a bit overwhelming if you don't know
me, and he was always like." I am used to her, but if your not...just leave her
alone." I didn't really know how to respond.

I will be 19 next February, and he will be 25 this August. I know all of this
must sound pretty stupid, but I just wanted to see what others thought,
because sometimes people get caught up and don't see things clearly, and I
am starting to wonder if this is just my mind playing tricks on me, or if maybe
something is there. In all honesty, I do like him, as we did spend a lot of time
together the past year, but I am also fully aware that teacher/Student
relationships are usually frowned upon, so thats why I felt so unclear as to
what I should do next. Do I test the waters with him, or just forget him all
together? Does any of this, even sound like he really has feelings for me?? Its
sort of like, my heart tells me one thing, but the reality of the way people
think makes me feel like I have to think otherwise, even though I graduated...
I don't want either of us to get a bad reputation, and I know that people could
think things happened before Graduation. I am just confused about the whole
situation.

*Thanks for all your help!*

[gregg]

If you are 18 and no longer his student there isn't any reason for you not to find out if he really likes you. Except, if you are not ready. Could it be that he is attracted to you, yes. Could it be he was just bolstering your confidence, yes. The only way for you to find out is ask.