Do we still have a chance?

[diabolena]

My BF and I dated for almost 8 months when he suddenly, out of the blue, told me that he wasn’t in love anymore and broke up with me. We’ve known each other for 3 years and been really good friend, we’ve liked each other since we met, but I had a different BF then and he was too shy. We started dating this year and it was amazing. I was his first real girlfriend (he’s 22) but I truly felt like he’s the one. We just got along and fit together. He had brought up the idea of us getting married, we weren’t planning a wedding or anything, but we knew that that’s what we both wanted. Kids had come up, engagement rings, what kind of dog we want to get. I was going to move down to SC with him after I graduate (I’m a year behind him). We never had any huge fights, little disagreements or issues, but we took them all in stride and worked through them. We had our first big fight a weekend or so ago and it was about half resolved but he had a huge project due, so I left it alone so he could concentrate on school work. The next weekend we talked about our problems and came up with solutions, he invited me to an end of the year banquet that was a week from then. I felt like we were fine. When I saw him later that evening, he didn’t seem ok, and when I asked what was wrong, he simply said that he’s not in love anymore. I don’t understand how someone can fall out of love in a week’s time. I wonder if it has something to do with graduation and him moving away from home. He’s very in control of his emotions and holds things in, he’s also under a lot of stress right now. I’m giving him his space, no contact with him at all, for my sake, even though he wanted to continue meeting me for lunch everyday like usual, after we broke up. He also wanted me to still come with him to the banquet. I’m very confused. Is there still a chance for us?

[gregg]

That is confusing! It sounds like he might be breaking up because he was told something during that week. Or he thought about graduating and moving away. There may be a chance in the future, but right now it sounds like you are doing the right thing by giving him space.

Good Luck!

[shom]

hi,

See as you said, there was some fight...it happens, somtime we think that other person is wrong..and never commit our fault and wait for other to accept his.this time you will have to accept your fault(even if its not yours) i would suggest (to let him feel better), than fix some time with him.....sit and express your feeling. if he is angree, then there are many ways to clam his anger down. the only thing is, you will have to show that you care for him, and really never mean to fight/diagree with his thougths.